Missandei was originally a slave who served as an interpreter to Kraznys mo Nakloz of Astapor, until she was freed by Daenerys Targaryen. Missandei now serves Daenerys as her trusted advisor and hand maiden. After Daenerys flees Meereen atop Drogon, following an attack from Sons of the Harpy, a Meereenese insurgency organisation, Missandei remains in the city as part of her small council, along with Tyrion Lannister and Grey Worm, while Jorah Mormont and Daario Naharis search for the missing queen.
When Daenerys returns to Meereen, with a horde of Dothraki, she achieves peace by ending the war over the Liberation of Slaver’s Bay, which is later renamed the Bay of Dragons. Missandei then sails with Daenerys in order to reclaim the Iron Throne from House Lannister, after which she begins a romantic relationship with Grey Worm during their queen’s residency at Dragon stone. Following a parley with the Lannisters, Missandei joins Daenerys in response to the northern cause at Winterfell.
Missandei was born on the island of Naath in the Summer Sea, off the coast of the continent of Sothoryos. She was enslaved at a young age and taken to Slaver’s Bay in Essos, where she was eventually put to work as an interpreter for the slaver-master Kraznys mo Nakloz, one of the Good Masters of Astapor.
Missandei speaks nineteen languages including High Valyrian (her favourite), the Low Valyrian dialect of Slaver’s Bay, Dothraki, the Common Tongue of Westeros, and has some knowledge of the functionally dead language of the Ghiscari Empire.
Missandei acts as an interpreter between her master Kraznys mo Nakloz and Daenerys Targaryen when she lands on Astapor with the intent to buy Unsullied. She does not simply translate, but offers Kraznys commentary on Daenerys’s words and diplomatically leaves out Kraznys’s insults to the Khaleesi, remaining as professional as she can when Kraznys describes the acts used to discipline and strengthen the Unsullied.
Daenerys meets with Kraznys and other Good Masters and announces her intention to buy all of the eight thousand Unsullied for sale, but Kraznys says she cannot afford them. The slaver grows increasingly insulting and condescending – which makes Missandei struggle to interpret politely. Daenerys then adds she also wants to buy the hundreds of young men still in training. In exchange she offers one of her dragons. The Good Masters agree, but Daenerys also asks for Missandei as a gift and a show of good faith for the upcoming transaction. He agrees, and Missandei follows Daenerys.
Daenerys asks the young slave for her name and if she has any living family, but she says she does not. Daenerys warns her that she is heading into war and she may be killed or may fall sick and die, to which Missandei simply recites the Valyrian aphorism: “Valar morghulis”. Daenerys responds by correctly interpreting, “all men must die” but also adds that “we are not men”, making Missandei grin.
Missandei, sporting a new dress to match Daenerys’s outfit, is present when Kraznys and Daenerys conduct their exchange. She interprets their exchange until Daenerys fluidly begins issuing orders to the Unsullied in perfectly accented Low Valyrian, at which Missandei stares in shock. Missandei survives the subsequent sack of Astapor and marches out of the city with Daenerys.
Missandei serves as Daenerys’s primary aide-de-camp during the march to Yunkai. On her queen’s orders, she gathers the Unsullied officers together and orders them to select a single leader from among themselves. When the new leader, Grey Worm, is presented, Missandei explains that all Unsullied are given names consisting of drab colours and vermin to remind them of their station. Daenerys promptly orders the Unsullied to select their own names, though Grey Worm elects to keep his.
Missandei later attends to Daenerys and her guests Mero, Prendahl na Ghezn and Daario Naharis. Mero is rather uncouth throughout the whole event, groping Missandei and even trying smell her. In part because of his treatment of Missandei, the khaleesi orders that Mero be killed first if the Unsullied must fight the Second Sons. That night, as Daenerys bathes, she is surprised to learn that Missandei speaks no fewer than nineteen languages. Missandei says this shouldn’t be that odd, since it only took Daenerys a year to gain a reasonable grasp of Dothraki.
The khaleesi bristles at the idea she speaks only reasonable Dothraki and switches to the language to teach Missandei a lesson, only to have her pronunciation corrected. Suddenly, an Unsullied enters and hold a knife to Missandei’s throat, advising the women not to scream. He removes his helmet, revealing himself as Daario. He explains he is here to kill Daenerys on orders from his captains, but they ran into a philosophical disagreement over her beauty. He then releases Missandei and produces his captains’ severed heads.
Missandei is later on hand as Daenerys waits for word of the infiltration of Yunkai and when Yunkai’s gates open. She at first recites a prepared speech on how Daenerys has freed the slaves, but the khaleesi interrupts with a speech of her own. When the freed slaves begin calling Daenerys “mhysa”, Missandei explains the word’s Ghiscari origins and its meaning, “mother”.
Missandei remains Daenerys’s aide-de-camp in the weeks following the fall of Yunkai. When an irritated Daenerys locates Grey Worm and Daario, Missandei informs them that they have been at their contest (balancing their swords to see who will have the honour of riding at the queen’s side) since midnight. Missandei is amused when Daenerys threatens to expel the winner of the contest from her army. Later on, Missandei discusses the Great Masters with the queen, and suggests that if they are smart, they should be afraid.
At the gates of Meereen, Missandei interprets the words of Meereen’s champion to Daenerys. She is clearly reluctant to accurately interpret the Meereenese Valyrian and cleans up the language slightly when relaying the message. A few minutes later, when Daario is selected as the champion, Missandei makes complimentary remarks about him, which Daenerys brushes off.
Missandei is revealed to have been teaching Grey Worm the Common Tongue. As the lessons progress, Missandei and Grey Worm discuss their lost homelands (Naath and the Summer Isles respectively) and Grey Worm’s eagerness to kill the Masters of Slaver’s Bay. Whilst Grey Worm bluntly states that his life was meaningless before he became an Unsullied, Missandei laments the beauty of Naath and the burning of her home upon her capture. Grey Worm is then summoned to begin the Siege of Meereen. Missandei then takes residence in Great Pyramid, along with the rest of Daenerys’s entourage following her success.
The Dragon Queen then crucifies 163 Great Masters in retaliation of the slave children’s murders on the mile markers to Meereen. Missandei is later present when Daenerys mulls over the possibility of seizing King’s Landing after it is reported that Joffrey Baratheon has been poisoned at his wedding. However, Daenerys ultimately decides to stay in Slaver’s Bay after reports that both Yunkai and Astapor have fallen out her control. She later acts as herald and interpreter while Daenerys, acting as queen of Meereen, hears petitions from her new subjects. This includes a goatherd whose flock has been incinerated by Drogon, which Daenerys pays substantially for, and Hizdahr zo Loraq, who begs for his the corpses of the Masters (including that of his father) to be dismantled from their crucifixes, which she eventually accepts.
While bathing nude in a stream outside the city, Missandei notices Grey Worm gazing at her. Surprised by this, she stands up, allowing him to see her wholly before she covers herself. Later she discusses what happened with Daenerys, who says Unsullied aren’t interested in women. Missandei says he was, though, surprising as it seems. Daenerys asks her whether, when a slave is castrated, the masters take both the “pillar” and the “stones.” Missandei does not know, and Daenerys asks whether she’s ever wondered. Missandei thoughtfully confirms she has.
Grey Worm later comes to apologise, but she tells him there is no need. She expresses sympathy over what was done to him, but he replies that if it had not happened, the course of events that eventually led to their meeting would not have occurred, which visibly moves her. As he turns to leave, Missandei says she is glad he saw her, to which he says he is as well. She is later present when Jorah is dismissed from Daenerys’s service and banished.
Missandei interprets for Daenerys when a farmer delivers to Daenerys the remains of his three-year old girl, who was burned to death by Drogon and is present when Daenerys orders the movement of Rhaegal and Viserion to the catacombs.
Missandei is with Daenerys when she learns that an Unsullied named White Rat is murdered in a brothel by an insurgence group named the Sons of the Harpy, intent on removing Daenerys from power. The council questions why the Meereenese would go to such lengths, guessing that some were comfortable with the fact that slavery existed as the lowest social quality of life. Missandei then approaches Grey Worm, asking why an Unsullied would want to go to a brothel. Grey Worm states that he does not know and leaves.
Missandei is at Daenerys’s council when they discuss what should be done with the Son of the Harpy who has been arrested following his capture by Grey Worm and Daario. Later, she is present when Mossador is publicly executed for murdering the prisoner before a fair trial could take place. She flees with Daenerys once a riot breaks out after the execution. She appears saddened when a despondent Daenerys excuses her council following the recent conflict. Missandei is present alongside Daenerys and Daario when Hizdahr zo Loraq yet again tries to convince to Daenerys that the fighting pits of Meereen should be reopened.
Missandei tearfully watches over Grey Worm as he is lying unconscious on a bed, following an attack from the Sons of the Harpy, in which Barristan is killed. She is present later when Grey Worm wakes up from lying unconscious in three days. Grey Worm states that he feels ashamed of himself for being afraid, to which Missandei responds that all men fear death. Grey Worm then says that the reason he was afraid wasn’t because of death itself but because he would never be able to see “Missandei from the Island of Naath” again.
Missandei is touched with tears by this and leans over to give Grey Worm a kiss. Missandei is later asked for advise by Daenerys regarding her current situation. Missandei say that she doesn’t think she is fit to give advice to a queen, which Daenerys thinks is absurd and states that she thinks Missandei is as fit as anyone to have a say in this. Missandei says that instead of listening to her counsellors Daenerys should perhaps listen to her heart instead. This leads to Daenerys reopening the fighting pits and proposing to Hizdahr.
Missandei is present when Tyrion and Jorah are brought before Daenerys in the Great Pyramid, after they make themselves known to the Dragon Queen when she attends the first series of duels in preparation for the Great Games at Daznak’s Pit. She witnesses as Tyrion explains himself and when Jorah is again banished from Meereen.
Missandei later attends Daenerys during the opening games at Daznak’s Pit. She remains quiet through most of the proceedings, observing the verbal sparring between Hizdahr and Daario and looking at Dany with concern when Jorah shows up again. When the Sons of the Harpy rise up begin slaughtering the spectators, Missandei is momentarily forgotten by Daario and Jorah, who are busy trying to get Daenerys away. Missandei is rescued by Tyrion, who kills a Son of the Harpy and gets them behind a line of Unsullied. Thinking she is about to die, Daenerys grabs Missandei’s hand, but the group is rescued by Drogon seconds later. Missandei and the others watch in amazement when Dany rides off on Drogon’s back.
As Tyrion, Jorah, and Daario argue over how to proceed, Missandei bring Grey Worm to them. Missandei attempts to explain to Grey Worm how Tyrion saved her, attempts to diplomatically avoid using the High Valyrian for “dwarf”, although Tyrion, in typical bluntness, corrects her. She repays the favour by telling Tyrion that his High Valyrian is “rusty” as opposed to “nostril”. When Daario and Jorah decide to leave the city and search for Daenerys, Daario tells the other three to stay put, since Missandei, as Daenerys’s closest confidante, will be needed to help Grey Worm and Tyrion run Meereen in the queen’s absence.
Missandei works with Tyrion, Grey Worm, and Varys to maintain the Queen’s peace in the city. One day, whilst discussing Rhaegal and Viserion (and their lack of appetite following Daenerys’s departure from Meereen), Tyrion mentions that since they were used to Missandei’s presence when they were younger and never once harmed her, they would probably be comfortable around her now, should they be freed. In response, Tyrion hopes that the reportedly intelligent nature of the dragons will win out when he visits them in catacombs.
Whilst Varys is dealing with Vala, Tyrion attempts to engage Missandei and Grey Worm in conversation. Neither of them are very good at small talk, however, and both are bewildered by his behavior. When Tyrion tries to engage them in a drinking game, Missandei says that neither of them drink. When Varys finally enters and rescues them from the conversation, Missandei cautions against immediate reprisals against Yunkai, Astapor, and Volantis, since they need their troops to protect Meereen. Missandei states the Masters of Slaver’s Bay only speak one “language” (violence and war), and they must answer accordingly. In the end, Tyrion convinces Varys to use his network of little birds to open communications with the opposing cities’ leaders.
Missandei counsels Tyrion before and during his meeting with the envoys Masters of the slave cities of Essos (Belicho Paenymion representing Volantis, Yezzan zo Qaggaz representing Astapor and Razdal mo Eraz representing Yunkai), distressing Missandei at the fact that Tyrion is seeking to approach them on more peaceful terms. When Tyrion states that he has experienced the horrors of slavery, Missandei is insulted considering he only experienced slavery for a very short time in comparison to her time as one; she states he does not understand.
During the meeting, Missandei defends Daenerys’s liberation of the slaves. She is shocked in response to Tyrion’s compromise of a seven-year transition period, angered at the envoys’ defence that slavery is the way their world works. Nevertheless, she reluctantly supports him in front of a delegation of former slaves led by Ash and Kesh, quoting Tyrion in order to convince them. In private, she and Grey Worm argue that no matter what, Tyrion will become a pawn of the masters, as that is their way, forever seeing those below them as objects to use to their benefit.
Missandei, along with Grey Worm and Varys, are present when Tyrion announces that he has arranged a meeting with Kinvara, the High Priestess of the Red Temple at Volantis. To convince the Meereenese that everything is going befittingly with Daenerys’s blessing, Tyrion secures an agreement with the Red Priestess to preach that Dany is The Prince That Was Promised.
Later, Missandei and Grey Worm exchange wine and jokes at the Great Pyramid. While reluctant to drink, Missandei and Grey Worm do so in honor of their Queen. After Tyrion tells a joke about Westeros lords in a bar, she tells a joke about two translators stranded at sea. While Tyrion feigns amusement, Grey Worm tells her that it was the worse joke he had ever heard. The three friends then celebrate Grey Worm’s new-found ability to tell a joke. Shortly after, they hear the sound of bombardment. Looking out the ramparts, they find a massive fleet sent by Astapor, Yunkai, and Pentos bombarding the city with trebuchets. Missandei remarks that the slave cities have returned for their “property.” By nightfall, Tyrion admits that his policy of diplomacy was a failure and allows Grey Worm to lead the city’s defence. Shortly after, they hear movement on the roof and discover that Daenerys has returned by riding upon Drogon. The following day, Missandei accompanies Grey Worm, Daenerys, and Tyrion during a meeting with representatives from the slavers’ cities who they met during the conference.
In return for allowing Dany and Tyrion to leave unharmed, Razdal demands the return of the Unsullied and Missandei, whom he intends to sell as a slave to the highest bidder. However, Dany categorically rejects their offer and unleashes her dragons Drogon, Viserion, and Rhaegal on the slavers’ fleet. The Masters cower in fear as Missandei informs them their queen asks for at least one of their lives as payment for their crimes. Grey Worm executes Belicho and Razdal by slicing their throats, who were quick to offer the death of the third slaver. Yezzan zo Qaggaz is spared so that he can bring back word of Dany’s power to the slave cities.
When Daenerys finally sets sail to Westeros at the head of the combined Greyjoy, Martell, Meereenese and Tyrell armadas (complete with the three Targaryen dragons), Missandei joins her and Tyrion on the deck of the flagship. She stands alongside Varys, looking determined to play her continuous loyal role in the next part of the game of thrones.
Missandei arrives on Dragon stone, accompanied by Daenerys, Varys, Tyrion and Grey Worm. She follows Daenerys from the shore of the island to the hall of the castle. Knowing this is her defining moment, and coming home, Missandei stops Grey Worm from continuing into the Chamber of the Painted Table with Daenerys.
After witnessing Tyrion’s announcement that the Unsullied will attack Casterly Rock to seize it, that being Daenerys’s first move in the upcoming war, on Daenerys’s council, Missandei visits Grey Worm in his chambers, presuming that he will lead the attack. There they engage in a conversation in which Grey Worm tells her that all the Unsullied have to face their weaknesses, his only weakness being her, leading to a tender kiss. When she realises what he wants, Missandei removes her clothes, but when she tries to remove his, too, he hesitates before letting her see his castration wounds. Then they start making love by him orally pleasuring her.
Missandei, Tyrion, and several Dothraki including Qhono, greet the King in the North Jon Snow and his adviser Davos Seaworth on the shores of Dragon stone. After Tyrion and Jon exchange pleasantries, Missandei orders the Northmen to lay down their weapons, which they oblige. While walking up to the castle, Missandei talks with Davos, who takes an interest in her homeland of Naath. On the way, the group are startled by Queen Daenerys’s dragons but Missandei and Tyrion maintain their composure.
In the throne room, Missandei introduces her Queen by her many titles. During the meeting, Dany demands that Jon Snow bend the knee and pledge fealty to her. Jon Snow is reluctant to bend the knee due to the historical animosity between the Starks and Targaryens dating back to the time of the Mad King. Jon Snow also warns Daenerys about the threat posed by the White Walkers and their undead armies. The two sides are unable to reach a common ground due to Jon Snow’s reluctance to submit to Daenerys and Dany’s skepticism of the existence of White Walkers and Wights. After receiving news from Varys that Yara’s fleet has been attack, Dany adjourns the meeting and tasks Missandei with giving Jon Snow and his followers lodging and food for their stay.
After learning that Euron’s Iron Fleet has wiped out much of Yara’s fleet, Missandei, Tyrion, and Varys attend a meeting with Queen Daenerys. When Daenerys proposed riding with her dragons to raze the Iron Fleet, Missandei and Tyrion argue against it because they do not have information on Euron’s location and the fear that one stray arrow may kill Daenerys. Missandei is present when Tyrion briefs the council about the Unsullied’s assault on the Lannister seat of King’s Landing. Grey Worm leads a successful assault on the castle only to learn that the bulk of the Lannister forces have retreated and that they have stumbled into a trap as Euron’s Iron Fleet burn the ships that brought them, stranding the Unsullied men.
Daenerys and Missandei head down to the beach. Missandei is worried about Grey Worm because they haven’t heard any news from Casterly Rock yet. Daenerys asks what happened between her and Grey Worm, and Missandei wryly says “many things”, smiling. She then continues into the caves with Jon, Daenerys and Davos. Upon exit, they are informed of the events of the Sack of High garden and the Fall of Casterly Rock. Following the information, her queen decides on riding Drogon into battle, staging the events of the Battle of the Gold road.
Davos and Jon encounter Missandei as they wait for her queen to return. She politely inquires why Jon’s surname is “Snow” even though House Stark has ruled the North for centuries, and his father Ned and brother Robb both had the surname “Stark” but he doesn’t. Jon and Davos explain to her the special system of regional surnames used in Westeros for bastard children of the nobility. Missandei doesn’t know what they mean, so they literally explain that Jon’s parents weren’t married. Davos asks if they have similar customs for bastards on Naath. Quizzically, Missandei explains that “Marriage” as such does not exist in Naath, so she finds the idea of a “bastard” to be quite an alien concept. Davos says that sounds liberating. Jon then asks when she left, to which Missandei finally reveals that she was taken by slavers, to be freed only years later by Daenerys. When Davos suggests Missandei simply traded one master for another, she counters that she and all the freed slaves serve Daenerys because they choose to. Davos keeps pushing, asking what would happen if Missandei decided to return to Naath immediately. She responds that Daenerys would give her a ship and wish her good fortune.
While Missandei, Davos and Jon are still on the causeway, they see a lone iron born ship approaching the island, a survivor of Yara Greyjoy’s fleet. Theon Greyjoy himself and some of his men come to shore on a rowboat. As they disembark, Theon and the iron born encounter Jon while Missandei, Davos and a few Dothraki escort guards witness a confrontation between Jon and Theon since when they both last saw each other before Jon was leaving Winterfell to join the Night’s Watch.
After the death of Viserion at the hands of the Night’s King, Daenerys agrees to pledge all her forces to the Northern cause, changing the objectives of Missandei’s queen.
Missandei sails into King’s Landing, with Varys, Theon, Jon and Tyrion, nervously watching: the Iron Fleet dominates Blackwater Bay with their vast ships. Upon arrival, they are escorted to the Dragon pit by Bronn. Missandei then watches as the parley unfolds, in which Cersei initially refuses to allow it and commit to the Great War after seeing a wight (due to Jon Snow’s refusal to be neutral during Daenerys’s invasion), but ultimately pretends to agree after a conversation with Tyrion. Unbeknownst to Daenerys’s forces, Cersei has no plans for the Great War, and is secretly hoping the Army of the Dead will defeat them for her. Missandei later sails to White Harbor, as Daenerys and Jon join all their collective forces to defeat the Night King.
Missandei rides beside her lover during the Targaryen entourage’s route through the winter town. Although the totality of Daenerys and her armies are clearly highlighted as being “outsiders” to the North, both Missandei and Grey Worm in particular are given suspicious and judgemental looks by the Northmen, presumably due to their obviously foreign nature. However, she and Grey Worm share a comforting look before the two reach Winterfell.
As preparations for the battle against the dead are underway, Missandei tries to make friends with some Northern children, who run away as she approaches. Grey Worm observes that they will never be welcome in the North, and asks her if she wants to grow old in a place like Winterfell. He then declares his intention to travel the world after they help Daenerys win, and asks Missandei if there’s any place she would like to go. She replies that she would like to see the beaches of Naath again. Grey Worm promises to help her get there.
Missandei remains in the crypts of Winterfell with the other noncombatants. She is irritated with Tyrion’s frustration and Sansa’s fatalism, and when they start musing on whether their marriage would have worked out due to Tyrion’s support of Daenerys, Missandei irritably reminds them that without her, they would be dead by now. Although the dead interred in the crypts rise and attack those hiding there, Missandei is able to survive the night.
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